Change Your Narrative, Change Your Life

I was speaking to a close friend about how limiting beliefs shape our daily actions. Our beliefs, values, and experiences create a unique lens through which we view life, and these narratives can either serve or hinder us.

My friend believed that you can’t find time to exercise while achieving professional success, leading to weight gain, low energy, and minimal resilience.

For many years, my narrative was that success required relentless hard work.

This belief, ingrained from my upbringing, drove me to near burnout before I realised it wasn’t serving me. I needed to replace this limiting belief with an enabling one.

Narratives often arise from self-protection, providing rationales for our situations.

My friend’s narrative justified his poor health because of his professional success.

Common limiting beliefs include “I’m too young/old,” “I’m not talented/smart enough,” and “I don’t have the education.”

In my 18 years in the fitness industry, I’ve heard various limiting beliefs related to health and fitness:

1. I am big-boned: Genetics affect body composition, but they are not the sole determinant of success. Believing this justifies inaction.
2. I can’t exercise because of my family: Family life is hectic, but exercise provides the energy and resilience to be a great partner and parent.
3. I could never run that far, lift that much weight, or participate in that activity: These beliefs stem from past experiences and prevent trying new things. Witnessing these beliefs transform into reality is inspiring.

What limiting beliefs are holding you back? Identify patterns in your narrative.

Are they based on facts or assumptions? Understand the true feelings behind these beliefs and their origins.

The good news is that you can choose your narrative.

Redefine yourself by adopting a new story. Here’s how:

1. Become aware:

   Introspect and identify the source of your reactions and behaviours.

2. Identify the damage:
   

   Write down how this belief has held you back and its impact on your relationships.

3. Replace it with an enabling narrative:
   

   Adopt a belief that empowers you, like my friend who now sees exercise as essential for energy and work performance.

4. Commit to actions:
   

   Take 2-3 manageable steps that align with your new belief.

By changing your narrative, you can transform your life.